5 Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!
6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.
7 For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind:
8 But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.
Whoever coined the phrase, “Sticks & stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” had little understanding of God’s Word. The sad part is that this contrary statement was told to countless children who dealt with taunting or teasing in school–whether it occurred on the playground or school bus. While parents and teachers advised kids to ignore the negative words of others, kids learned quickly that those words were pretty hard to ignore. Why? Because words really do have power. Think of the most hurtful thing that someone said to you or the nicest thing someone has said to you—don’t those words stick with you for a long time?
In God’s inspired Word, James relates our tongue to a fire. It’s no coincidence that on the playground we learned to fight fire with fire. Unfortunately, this playground mentality can carry over into our adult relationships. When a loved one says something hurtful, instead of telling them the effect those words had on us—we fling those darts back. As much as we might think it’s fair game or that we will “get over it,” what we don’t realize is how much we tear away at the relationship. Just go to the store or visit a mall, and listen to the words that parents say to their children, or “friends” say to one another “as a joke,” or how wives speak to their husbands or vice versa, or the names that siblings call each other, or how boyfriends talk to their girlfriends, etc.
Regardless of how much or how little we value our relationships, our words reap far more serious consequences than damaging our relationship with loved ones or non-loved ones—it might actually shape the lives of others. How so?
Because our words bring death or life:
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. [Proverbs 18:21]
Basically, what it comes down to is that we have 2 choices—either we can speak life to others or speak death. If we speak negative words or curse to others, we speak death towards them and bear the image of one who breathes fires—the Great Dragon himself.
Wiccans and other New Agers understand that our words—positive or negative–have power that manifests in the physical realm. Moreover, scientific research from the alternative medicine camp demonstrates this principle:
Video [1.5 mins]: The Power of Words-Dr. Emoto’s Experiment
Unfortunately, the modern-day church has been pervaded by the same New Age teachings of speaking things into existence and seeking YOUR own path not GOD’S Will for your life, such as the Rick Warren’s “Purpose Driven Life,” as well as the psychology of positive thinking, like Olsteen’s “Your Best Life Now.” Thus, many churches rarely experience the power of God because the object of faith is one’s SELF instead of Jesus Christ.
Whenever we seek God and His will, we learn how to speak blessings based on God’s promises and we feel a love for others that only Christ can lay on our hearts–one that includes loving our enemies [Matthew 5:43-46]. And speaking of enemies–Speaking blessings or curses not only applies to words we speak to others, but also words we speak about others—in other words, Gossip.
9 Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God.
10 Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be.
Instead of telling others how someone will never ____ or how ____ & ____ they are, we need to pray for them instead [Matthew 5:44]. I’ve been convicted on this before and it’s difficult to stop when your partner in gossip-crime fuels that fire.
So how does a man or woman control their words if James said, “No man can tame the tongue…”? Stay tuned for pt 2…
In His Love,